I know my boyfriend still has some growing up to do, but Im tired of being miserable in this situation. I do not like dogs, never will.. Needy pathetic, whiny, annoying little jerks. When I have to go out of town I often have my mom watch her because I know if she is at home she will not be happy and wont do anything but sit in her crate, eat and go outside. What ever happened in this situation? So, your significant other has a dog, and youve told them that its either the dog or you. They dont act out of jealousy or spite or anger, or do anything on purpose to get at you. It is beyond their capacity to feel that way. Just like you, I wouldnt ask anything outlandish either. Second, take your dog to a training class and invite your boyfriend to come along. If he would offer to take the dog out once in a while, it would help. Dog urinates on my bed which I dont sleep in anymore. Suddenly he didnt want the dog sleeping with us. Dogs need to be dogs . She caught him, that night we have an emergency vet visit. If your dog is habituated to barking all over the day, this can be the reason why does your husband/boyfriend needs to rehome the dog. Thats disgusting. He never said he didnt like my one dog Pitty until we moved in together. Yuck! The dog needs to be in its position. Basically, a life with this man and his dogs will mean not having my own needs met, and being second-place beneath the dogs. When the relationship starts to go downhill, they cling to the dog more almost in a weird attempt at inducing jealousy. Scared she would get ran over.. Then it gets cold and I couldnt do it Kids would beg for her to come in and it was hard for me to sleep of a nite shutting the door for bed knowing Bailey dog wanted inside!!! It just makes me sick. I would go on a walk with the dog and feel way better then walking his little thing. When we take trips they stay at a kennel that costs 3x as much as normal kennels, where they sleep on cushions. Let me remind you, he does not pee in the house and he does not go out any more than normal. This dog has become spoiled. Home Terms of Service Privacy Policy Sitemap Subscribe to The GoodTherapy Blog. Theyre selfish. Its not that I dont like animals, but I have no desire of them to be in my house and definitely not in my bed. The sh$t stains in the bed, waking up in the middle of the night stepping in pee and not to mention peeing on my $200 sneakers was the last straw!!! Ive seen it so many times these are the people who tend to get a dog because they are single and lonely, or because they think dogs are cute, or because everyone else has one and they are doing these animals a huge disservice by not training/socializing them properly or treating them like DOGS and not humans. So I am dealing with a situation with my husband agreeing on taking care of his brothers dog for a YEAR as he and his family gallivant across Europe, without consulting with his entire family. Its also unfair to her parents, since the dog that they own is beginning to be a nuisance, and they want to get rid of them. Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. She tells me I am the one with issues if a dog being in the house is causing mental distress. The dog sleeps in the bed always on my legs and he snores very loud. We tried create training and he broke the first one so we got a metal one. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. When he's there, he may just totally fall for one of the available dogs. I dont know. I find it so upsetting when people equate dogs to children. this mutt constantly undermines me and its my partners fault as its allowed by her. We had an agreement that if the cat came inside during the morning hours, (my husband is usually gone from 1a-8a) he can sleep with me but once hes home and I get up, so is the cat to get up. The dog barks heavily so much Day and night without change. My partner was ok with it but every now and again says he doesnt like it. It has not been hard enough to draw blood but our son was weary of it for sometime. Compromise. She is wrong to suggest someone who isnt capable of living on his own have a pet to help him. What do I do? Im sorry for all that youve gone through and are going through now. Why would that look cool? Also I agree with Michael that your dog not being socialized is an extremely bad thing. Growing up we had dogs but they were never allowed to run in the house never sit on furniture or even go into bedrooms. It was very depressing for me and now my moving past it has resulted in resentment towards both dog and boyfriend. At the beginning he was sooooo good with my dog. They are very, very good dogs. He wouldnt stop suggesting it! On top of the shedding is the incessant dog smell. Shes kind of mean to him tells me things like your dog is gross when hes licking himself between the legs (well, thats what dogs do). To a hotel by myself? Then my bf would get mad at me for making unreasonable demands ie, basically just wanting the dog to be trained. Amen! Im worried how that will affect relationship. It went something like this: I was looking at brochures to get decorating ideas for the babys nursery. Every dog site pushes the same narrative: there are no limits to what a dog is entitled to (along with ads for expensive trash to buy Fido). (I was sick of that too that I started putting my foot on her and saying, Thats enough. ITS always in the way!! If I hadnt told him I wouldnt marry him if the big yellow female lab was allowed to sleep in our bed, she would have. Nessa, the dog nipping at my kid would have been the last straw. my partner said it was his fault for not locking him up to me thats no excuse , i suggested a kennel but he wont have non of it . Not to mention any future relationships! Okay so I have a similar situation to Charlie. Tell your husband that the dog is not housebroken, that it is not your responsibility, and that he or his brother must immediately make alternate arrangements. THIS IS ALL SOO WRONG. So, in 1-5 years shes down to one dog and 3-7 years, shell have none. He works on his own time and has more than enough time and energy to take care of her properly. uh yeah right. Its a fine thing for her to love her dog, but that doesnt make it okay for her to force its presence on you. I tell her if she does not do so I will be taking the pet the the humane society to be taken care of properly. Right after bringing her home, our youngest cat saw her and freaked out, terrified. Never cleaned and they sleep together, and he had insisted that doggy was in my 7000 bed ruining my Hermes bedding (bf said my problem). I love animals, but I dont enjoy sharing my living space with them. My partner loves dogs as do I, so neither of us mind their presence. He eats my dogs food all the time. But, I highly recommend you consult a dog behaviorist prior to meeting a relationship advisor. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. Theyre revealing their true colours now. currently, she sleeps in the bed with her, is very very clingy, moans if there is no constant attention and very manipulative. Hes constantly in the kitchen looking for food to eat! Im honestly so angry, what is even more frustrating is he sees no problem with this at all, Im starting to think I will never change his opinion and he will never compromise. Id say if he leaves: good riddance!! When he tried to go to bed, the dog would be there first and would growl at him when he tried to get in. Ive been in a relationship with a dog nut and you get so frustrated because they just dont get it and never will. No go. 2. Even though she knows to go outside shell go upstairs and pee or poop in the kids rooms or our bathroom. shes 21, attends school and works, and spends most of her days / weeks at her boyfriends house, now, so that cat, in effect, is the sole responsibility of my wife, since her 21 year old son spends his time, 24/7 in his room playing computer games. I dislike this dogs disposition but I can deal with that. It all bothers me very much. she barks like mad everytime she hears someone outside or when we have visitors coming through the door, even if its someone she knows ,and two minutes later shes all over the visitors like a rash lapping up the attention, also when we walk in town she is really nervous, shakes, unexpectedly twirls around sometimes nearly knocking me over. It was hard saving money, but I did it. Yet he insisted on us dating. He sees Mesa as his child, I see Mesa as an animal. Its called proper training and reminding the dog that they are a dog and not a human. And promises has been broken as far as who comes first, husband or dog. UGH! Chat with your vet: You need to ensure if there are any health-related issues going on here. Really think about your life here. Sharing your marital bed with 2 x 50 pound dogs? Lucy I feel for you. Just a thought. Privacy Policy. He has also nipped at my son! i feel terrible having feelings of anger towards a dog i feel worse having feelings of jealousy toward the dog.i told my husband this is crazy..im your wife..you married me not the dog wth man my wishes and needs dont mean anything to you i will leave when i am able.he didnt say anything to that.didnt seem to care..my husband is usually a very loving kind man my kids love him he is great with them..we should be spending time together excited about our new baby on the way..but the only thing he cares about in his free time is his dog and video games.help its making me extremely depressed. Leaving my work, school, friends, and family behind to follow him and his new job in Texas. I am glad the dogs are old and will not live forever. I dont think you are wrong for feeling the way you do (we should never apologize for FEELING a certain way), but I think communicating to him how it is making you feel might help. She sits there and just begs for constant attention, she emits the most awful depressed and anxious energy , she just wanders around the house and stands there with her head down in distress. I can only hope that your situation will improve soon mine is not any better either. My dog ran out the room first and me second. Eight days after moving in, and without consent, she brought a Siberian Husky puppy in and this dog is still not trained. I have even volunteered as a charity dog walker to try and alleviate the sadness I feel, but its simply not the same. I have started hating that cat, have become extremely resentful and am considering divorce though that would be the last resort. I do not want to toss out my engagement but I do not know how much more I can take. And it is quite obvious to us that he is not going to change. I have no advice for you and I have no idea how people have four dogs. Once you figure that out the fight wont exist. I also hated it when the dog would sleep on my pillow or by my side of the bed and it was also joked about when I mentioned it. You are human, a different species. I am to the end of my rope. My DH would tell me I was selfish. the puppy sleeps with us and the ex get jeleous when puppy puts his head on me. About a year and a half after dating we found out we were pregnant. I mean, dogs shed. There were so many other examples, but I believe this gives you a good idea of the hell I was living. We argue for 15 mins about the dog and I ask him to leave. To give you how much worse it did become for me. We have had discussions that he still wants to sleep with his dogs, while he knows how i feel about that. Dogs shouldnt be on a human bed anyways, they need to have their own. I received pictures every week and I can see by her sleeping posture that she is both happy and comfortable. If you are, seek help immediately and DO NOT take your anger out on innocent animals. She doesnt know the meaning of no and in general sucks. Then you can adjust the procedure that needs to follow based on the requirements stated by the dog behaviorist. My husband got bored with him long ago and while he does the minimum walking and feeding, he shows him absolutely no affection whatsoever. Dogs are dogs , they should take commands, listen and respect their position and Of course the owner needs to be respectful in their roll as well. I act like I didnt hear what he just said and call my dog to sleep with me, if he want to join us he can. Dogs are a species of animal. I am so glad I stumbled across this forum because its the only place Ive found people whose experiences are most similar to mine. I can sympathize with your situation and its too bad you are going through all this drama over the dogs. I could not understand how someone could do this without being completely evil. As soon as we leave he destroys the house. I just cant do it, didnt move all the way over there to come home to a dirty and stressful environment every day and not be able to do anything fun with my new husband. Shes cute but not the small dog I wanted. For example, just the other night he calls her to come back 9 times and then says good girl. They arent children or babies. Im ready to move out into my own apartment and my boyfriend is choosing to stay with his parents and the animals ugh. My other two cats are female and get along almost all the time but have a fight once in a while that I have to break up and I get scratched. Not only that she forgets how to carry herself as a married woman when shes out and around people. It jumps on dinner table begging for food and has scratched the couch to death( we had to get a new cover for the couch) i tried to accept it and invested my time in training it, it responded and stopped doing the bad things for a while but my husband messed with its brains by deliberately putting her on the couch/bed and giving it treats on the couch inspite of me pleading not to, that the cat has gone back to its despicable behaviour. Look the dog fanatics are crazed control freaks who cannot exist with ordinary people and use the dogs, who cannot talk back, to affirm their need for adoration and control. It is one of the excellent ways to keep your dog mentally stimulated throughout the day, making a well-behaved dog. He takes his dog for rides, walks, hunting and to camp with him all the time while my dogs stays at home. Our fighting is bad parenting in front of the dogs and we cant continue like this. I love animals and I feel bad about my resentment towards my husbands dogs. I refuse to sleep in the bed. I honestly believe its because people get dogs when they are single and lonely. What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. We were supposed to go on a vacation when I came back. If the dog is just still a puppy, forgiveness can be given. It can be annoying and it often stinks, but it is happy to be outside so not a big problem. However, it hasnt gotten too cold for her to decide that on her own and she instead does a lot of in/out, sometimes 4 or 5 times a night (before bed). If you do so, you will see a huge improvement within a week or two. Okay this has cause so many arguments with my boyfriend and I and the kids Now his dog has come in heat and had to bring her in we went away for the weekend and the windows were tore up my curtains large piles of dog poo and pee everywhere and he yells and says I guess UR dog had no part in any of it!!! Yet I find myself at the end of mine because as a human in a human relationship I cant understand why its so wrong for him to treat his dog like an animal. My work laptop, INSIDE my work bag has hair in it. Oh yes and car crazy will jump through windows to get in a car to make it stink, cover it in hair and rub its arse on a seat that I am meant to sit on. Ive had dogs but these arent dogs: theyre living gods. He has only visited them a few times in the past months. He is asking me to consider changing my entire life. In my whole life I have met 2 or 3 people who are pet owners (very responsible ) but do not let the pets on furniture and can distinguish between a person and a pet. My husband had this dog prior to us getting married. But we have suffered a lot of loss in the last few years so dealing with fleas and having the patience to teach a dog when and when not to bark is not something he is always up to do. Ill help brushing her as needed. In fact, its better to invest some money on a fence and have a fenced backyard where the perfect nature to adopt a dog that can let him walk, roam, run, and play on their own with lack of limitations. these are sensitive subjects to bring up but i cannot live unhappily. I HATE THIS DOG! I also find myself sleeping alone every night while the dog sleeps with him. He didnt know it, but his wife told him that the couple ordered their dog a burger and had the dog sitting at the table while they fed the dog the burger?? Anyways, my solution to that problem when it happened was Im very sorry, I really do love you, but I also love him, and he was here first. Current relationshipboyfriend moves in, we get engaged, a year later I finally break down and find him a dog It broke his heart that the place I had by myself would only allow my cat so when we moved he got his dog. But as I sit here and read all the comments and the same scenarios I have been through, one thing does come to mind.communication. I need help. Theres highly rated dog food for 1.1/kg but she wouldnt think of it. Anyway, as I was feeding the baby I hear my dog whining which I know means he needs to go out. Yes he takes him outside some. How do any of you that do this have a good sex life?! Normally, I should feel that i cant wait to have our own place, but not now. Its interesting that the partners of dog fanatics are a mix of men and women. Nor will he let me even attempt to give the dogs away. He didnt want to go, because he couldnt miss his babies for 7 days. Whatever you feel now, multiply times ten thousand, and that is how much you will hard the shedding when you live with him. Constantly needing constantly dumping her energy all over my home. we lived together for a month, and her daughters 14 year old cat is obviously traumatized by the daughters constant absence. Is that too much to ask? I cant lead myself to believe that most women would rather be alone with a dog than have a significant other in their life. I was very harsh dragging her by the leash when she wouldnt come and spanking her what she pottied in the house.the day I got her for shots she was so small and not very healthy that she got sick. he lies on her keyboard, on her paperwork, gets between us during intimate moments. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. She would take that as how much people LOVE bulldogs but realistically, she dressed them up in clothes as we walked! PHOENIX , AZ AREA: (602) 708-4531 How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? He said he couldnt relax in his own home whilst we had a cat. She would say shes going to adhere to boundaries so we could all live in harmony but would go against that shortly afterwards so we would always butt heads because she would never keep her word. Im just overwhelmed w it. Unlike your family your dog never disagrees with you, no matter how wrong you are, because it has no idea what you are talking about. Im not a person who is fond of energetic animals in general though, which is why I prefer the quiet calmness of cats. I am so stressed over this :( Can I put my foot down and tell him I want to live with the 2 of us without the stress of dogs? But apparently it was my fault because she walked in front of me while I was looking Ina store window. An animal, is an animal. She didnt beg or whine constantly. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. All of my friends think Im crazy for staying with her, especially when theres a few women I know who like me more than a friend and dont come with the type of baggage she has. His pee smells horrible and I recently learned that the smell of wolf urine is so strong that people buy it off the internet to ward off raccoons and possums. Yes I have discussed this with him but it doesnt really go anywhere because he gets defensive every time I bring up anything about his child. I dont feel like she likes him anymore.. Also, perhaps its not even necessarily your dog that he is annoyed by, but the way you are *treating* your dog. !! If I had known just how badly she shed before I got into a relationship with my boyfriend I would have turned him down. #dogtraining #dogtrainer #phoenixdogtraining #scottsdaledogtraining #dogbehaviorist #dogwhisperer #dogaggression #puppy #housetraining. My God there are some idiots commenting on this thread. Is it wrong of me after all day being with him and taking care of him to just want the night to myself and my boyfriend without the dog in there smelling up our room? And yes my partner is obsessed with his dog, what he eats, he cant havw treats, B12 and other injections have to be given to him, other medications, etc. (That can provide the same amount of nutrition). I am still so depressed about it but have gotten better (its been about 6 months since) but i now have an absolute hate for my fiances dog. She is more possessive of our house (Chesapeake) than others. Firstly, they drool so seeing them drool around the kitchen table was gross (she called it cute, not cute!). Hes been through tons of owners and they have all given up on him. Its possible to spoil a dog and still maintain a respectful relationship. He had filled her bank account with his love while he was making withdrawals from mine. He leaved in the house with him before we got married and then moved the dog to the garage, shortly after. You would assume most dog lovers/owners would treat ALL dogs the same! Ultimately, a dog that isnt bathed, played with, given affection, and taken out to exercise is neglected. Im a mess right now. The dog begs at all meals or literally anytime you put something in your mouth, I seriously cannot take my birth control without the dog begging. Happier than weve ever been with our crazy dog! I am in a very stressful relationship where I love both my dog and partner. I will on my own hide the ball after a significant amount of play time but all that happens is the Boston will run around in desperate and panicked fashion looking for it and my girlfriend will ultimately give it to him. She adopted a dog (3 years old) after two years and we were both excited (Keep in mind, I didnt really have any say in getting the dog or not. I want it to work. Stay out of the kitchen when we are eating (would also want when we are cooking), stay off the couch and out of the bedroom. Dog eats off his plate and will get on counter and lick frying pan or eat whatever i have thawing out. But a change as simple as teaching your dog not to beg or keeping your cat off the bookshelf could remedy the issue. You get the point. He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. Recently we found out the friends he left his dog with werent taking good care of the dog. He obeys me and when she tries he now ignores her. The biggest mistake was bringing the dog into the bed because now hes trained to think thats where hes supposed to be. If the dog is a grown one, the house training needs to be done again! They need to meet. Hey look at my pretend partner YOU inferior human never mind how it makes YOU feel Im too busy pretending/making up inappropriate and misguided feelings for my mutt. Im worn out and tired. Sam Basso Since then we have communicated about what it is that makes him upset1. Not to mention animals belong outside, they are meant to be outside. He ran and she chased him. I am so glad that I bumped into this forum. They go berserk at anyone that comes near the house but im not alloud to interveen to shut them up, my daughter calls me a c##t and my wife says im a bastard but not to my face. I asked her about it and she said she never wanted the dog in the first place, that she knew she would never be happy (I wish I would have known this) because I thought even though I knew she wasnt a fan of dogs that by getting one it would warm her heart, a cuddle play buddy. A lot of peple commenting on here have been outright rude to say people need therapy for loving their dogs too much or treating them like humans. How dramatic, is that? Life will stop if IT cant be involved in everything between us. I just needed to vent and be honest somewhere. I also have a dog of my own. Thats a major issue that has to do with your anger. Help please. I like dogs and understand why other do as well. It has caused me a lot of stress. Three months after we married he came down with bronchitis. My husband has time to go bowling, golfing, drinking, sporting events, and then he wants another dog? Not to mention, dont compare them to children like a boy and a girl analogy. Later the same day, I walked in the living room and watched him pick up her muzzle and plant his lips on the side of her face moving his head right to left and left to right, like a hard kiss of passion. If you are confident you can please do ahead and try but if he carries on,please believe me,you are better off without your partner full stop. Was paper love to do that, specifically the one who doesnt have a dog and is still interested in dogs. I remarried a man with a huge female Labrador Retriever. Yes I support your dream she says but down deep, I think not. Giving affection isnt sufficient. Its been extremely hard to potty train her, if I dont take her out for 2-3 hours she will shit or pee in my kids room ALWAYS THEIR ROOM it makes me so mad. I like dogs in general but not drooly, nasty, ugly Bulldogs but that experience has really hurt my thought process of dating in regards to not giving someone a chance if they own a dog. Sure they make great companions, but they also require boundaries in the home and animals will always be just that, regardless to how some people try to anthropomorphisize them. Dude Im in the same situation its been like this for idk how many months. Why do i feel ive got the shit end of the stick ! No, asking him to find the dog a good home isnt asking too much at all. After you fall in love with someone, its kind of a package deal. I make a point of saying, babe I dont like him on the bed and he jumps on the defensive side every bloody time! Jake- The first nights, he didnt want me to sleep with him, because he didnt want his dogs to be disturbed. and my husband had never discouraged this. I was irritated and so was he. Its the worst thing ever. The dog might end up dead if it is given away the death rate at shelters is often shockingly high. He moved to a condo and let me stay in the house. The last straw was when i suffered a severe allergic reaction ( couldnt breathe and eyes swole to the size of an apple)to the cats hair and was told by the doc to immediately remove any pets lest i wanted to risk life long asthma attacks, my husband to my utter shock defended the cat and refused to remove it as a precautionary measure. Sowe bought a house together & moved in. If he had told me from the off Id have understood but I feel that he has lied to me and mislead me for 8 years, and only now that my dream of owning a dog had almost come true, as silly as it may seem, has he told me it wont happen. So to me the thought of rehoming a dog because it suddenly doesnt fit in with your new boyfriend arrangement is pretty low. I have a small senior dog who I live as if he were family. Neither of us like dog hair on our clothes, so hes not allowed on our couch or in our bed. On top of that you have sent the message that a dog, an animal, is more important than him, which is selfish and inconsiderate. Well I cant use yelling as a tool for behavior changes because it doesnt work long term and it is not in my nature to respond like that. Regardless, if the pet needs medical help, rather it be meds in the ear, whatever, how can you like yourself knowing that something, a living thing is suffering and all you can worry about is I dont like dogs and someone else should do it. Ive visited other dog related websites and you wouldnt believe how some people react when you arent a complete and total dog nut. Responsibility I believe is key. Hell cry for my SO when were trying to enjoy a movie together. I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. Jennifer: So, I will be checking what pets new people have in the future. I wish that I could come up with a solution. Later I said, hed save me and blame me for the dog dying. He thought it was an endearing moment. Need help with your relationship? Just as I clean after his 12 year old son who is completely capable of picking up after himself. You dont have to hate animals to hate your significant others pet. 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