I sure don't. My girlfriend of 8 months told me in the beginning of the relationship she had only been with 2 other men which were her past relationships. Be happy you have a girl. All in all I just dont feel we should be looking at the amount of men she has slept with in the past as evidence for if she is someone to be with. As you stated, as long as she is disease free, there should be no issue. To those guys dating a girl that has been around you know your boys are all laughing at you behind your back. Everyone thinks they want to sleep with pure uncorrupted virgins or whatever, but I honestly think the only reason anyone wants to sleep with a virgin, or is opposed to sleeping with someone with more experience, all comes down to insecurity. I think that this is a very mature way to look at the reality in which we live. Notoriety. I reinforced that sex was a major responsibility, must be done with responsibility, and that I definitely preferred that she would wait until she was marriedbut that if something changedprotection was a must! Not really. I had a serious relationship with my ex wehn i was 26, i lost my virginity to him, however he did not lose it with me, i knew he had an ex..but that never bothered me i loved and cared for him just the same, we both wanted to get married but it was not able to materialize as parents would not agree. Others may have been dealing with some deep issues and did not know how to properly handle it. I would rather be morally responsible than put another person through the consequences of my decisions. Be open, talk about your wants, your needs, your boundaries. So in my opinion the way to ensure more virgins and keep women in that box is to slander anyone that steps outside of that. That is all we need to continue our happy lives. HOLD ON TO THE SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST. Just keep going forward. That doesnt define who you will be. Also, punctuation would help. Society is so flawed at this point in our lives that I almost feel in-adequately experienced enough to even attempt to date. Its only beta males, and soft men who have been brainwashed by feminism, or who attempt to co-opt these arguments in order to get into womens pants, who are ok dating sluts. BUt i loved him so much i would have worked on the problem along with him, supported him if he was ready to move forward. Because if not, there should be no issue. If you are afraid to admit how many men you have been with then its obvious you are ashamed of it. I hope you come in awareness. what associations are you making in regard to the fears and concerns you might have? Like the article states you dont know why she chose to sleep with an individual or several. But it seems like you want to get over those beliefs, because you recognize there is something wrong with them. In addition, the divorce rate in my country of Canada is lower than it is in the US, and we have a more sexually permissive culture as well. Excellent. I wouldnt. Main and women are different for reason and once we start opening up the doors for women to act similar to mens unhealthy actions, Youll start seeing to even higher divorce rate in the future. They want a woman, someone different than they are. Its all psychology. Additionally, male and female sexuality is just different. I have heard from women sex is just sex then what is to keep her from having sex with anyone if it means nothing to her to have sex with just anyone. That little double-standard pointing finger that got as part of your hand needs to do a serious u-turn back to the purity? So again it isnt the number, it is how they behave today and if they have addressed any issues from the past that can linger and hurt them and the person they enter into a relationship with. EXACTLY and guess what: YOU ARE BEING JUDGED for having the wrong amount! The fact remains that the women with the lowest divorce rate in our liberal Western culture (not an alien culture or religion) are those who are more educated, higher income earners and marry later. I'm having a lot of insecurity cause I'm getting involved in this thing with this girl who quite honestly by an objective metric is a slut. This is what society gets for sexual liberation. If you cant get in or she cant handle it can mess up the whole experience. Her past had less to do with either scenario, but her current relationship had plenty to do with it. No, it can most certainly simply be about the actual number. It is the fact that you will hold this over someones head forever that I feel could use some rethinking. pasts at all, dont have intense feelings for her. My current boyfriend has never brought up the conversation about my number of partners and neither have I. As per your Article this clearly shows that Women have sex during their High School and early age as they know that guys or men will not marry them they just want SEX so this only classified that kind of woman as a SLUT ( a WHORE who sexs without Money) People rarely change. relationships because they are so used to casual sex that theyve I apologize if it seems I am implying that women who enjoy and have had many sex partners are simply victims of abuse. I think she just slept with them because she was desperate for love, she was getting it from no-where else and probably didnt know how to get a guy without offering herself physically. I feel most people focus on the physical aspect of sex but overlook the mental and emotional aspect which plays an even bigger role in how good the sex can be. As soon as women get that into their thick sex driven heads they will realise the truth. I just wanted to share so that some man one day can know hes not alone. That there is no way to properly address things and move past what you used to do? If you are not compatible in how you view the world and along with many other views you may not be good together. Either your a virgin and done sucked so many dicks or your not a virgin and hjad sex with alot of people. I did and am again. Look at that women and realise that being a slut is not what men want. Ladies need to just respect themselves overall. In the last few years I have hurt her with my venting and myself deeply as well with the thought of it. Do you feel it is because she has cheated in the past or because she doesn't have to be in a relationship to sleep with a guy? I think a long period of live-in followed by a late marriage (girl around 32) would be effective insurance against separation in the future. Ps if women werent sluts you wouldnt be on this planet. Just that the second one gets paid for it? Most women judge good young men fa they age that aint been in so many relationships with out friendship first. THANK YOU DEEDEE26I HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS 37 AND IS A VIRGINONE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE A VIRGIN BUT I APPLAUD WOMEN LIKE YOU WHO HOLD YOURSELF TOGETHERIF WE LOWERED OUR NUMBERS MORE MAYBE THEVALUE WOULD GO BACK UP! He is the King of kings and Lord of lords. Unfortunately partners that get stuck on whos done more dirty deeds than the other often have deeper insecurity issues than this topic could cover and the insecurities are fueled by the world around them. I think it would be best for everybody to wait or minimize how many people they have sex with, but that does not change the fact that we should not judge a woman based on her past. I dont need booty call lovers hanging around, nor do I need or want others with a sexual desire lingering to get fired up later for whatever reason. @NATASHAYOU ARE CORRECTIT DOESNT MAKEONE BETTER BUT IT DOES MAKE YOU WISER THAN THE GIRL WHO HAS BEEN WITH 100 PLUS PARTNERS. If they say they dont feel secure in the relationship, esp on the parent side of things. This was probably written by a hoe. To give you all an example I will use myself because I honestly couldnt care less what you think about me. You also realize that if it doesnt work out, you leave with the same past choosing to be selective in whom they sleep with. She informed methat she had sex with over 30 men. Because most men are not comfortable, this is why many women lie about it. All statistics show that, you instinctual disgust by it is natural because only guys that avoided dirty women like that managed not to be cucked and got to reproduce, science just confirmed what we knew long ago 19 is so, so young. Im not going obsess over the fact that my numbers may be to high. What I noticed about these two women as well as my female friends and colleagues is that women who have had a large number of sexual partners often have different values and a different outlook onrelationship behaviorthan those that have not. Sin is sin is sin. Their lack of experience makes them fantasize about the what ifs. Everyone is different, despite gender. Out of every 10 girls, say about 5-6 hv premarital sex. Would you marry a girl who slept around? But if your going to get seriously involved physical and emotionally with someone come clean. I do not hold it again them because I am not exactly a virgin either. First let me say that I really like the advice that you post even though I occasionally disagree with your views, the vast majority of the time (92-97%) I feel that your advice perfectly sums up the solution that is going to bring about the best results. The DNA basically latches on to your brain and works its way into your On genetic make up. Thing is, a mistake can cost you plenty in life jobs being one of them. Its difficult. Why is that so conveniently forgotten? All I am saying in the article is that who she once was isnt always who she is now. I just don't want to lose my mind about this soon as I don't want to ruin what I have with this girl. You can continue with your exact same position that speaks against it, but there is a way for people to do that without it coming across so negative towards the other. A womans body is different. At the end of the day none of those could capture her heart as you have. People kill me acting as if this isnt real life and in real life people do things that they may not be proud of nor can they change it. and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wifes exes. Generally speaking, women can have sex with whoever they choose, the same cannot be said for men. There are women who have been with one man, and have gotten an STD. Sleeping with a lot of people says something about ones character. of course aftewards they feel like trash, or are so cold that they lack feelings completely. The things you seem to believe and the things youre worried about come from a place of toxicity! Yes the chances that they wont see eye to eye may increase based on her sexual past, but it will not always be the case. The commandment is that we shall not fornicate .male or female. Will you feel it is worth walking away from this amazing woman because a couple of years ago she was once promiscuous. Self respect and value for yourself, if somebody wanted that lifestyle then why should they get to have somebody who didnt have that lifestyle. Im female, but Im not emotional, insecure or needy. If you cant provide a woman with certain things you will always leave the possibility of that relationship going in the wrong direction. You say what happened to encouraging people to do better, but how is continuing the practice of judging people on their past a good thing? I am pointing out that sex is vastly different for men and women.. That is how we are made.. If you slept with a lot of people how exactly do you expect people to view you. I dont play the who slept with who game. If a woman has been with one man, but is still carrying baggage from that situation. Judge whoever you want to judge on their past. Typically, people do not cheat simply because they are accustomed to being promiscuous (or have been in the past). Hey Mike. Im always a lady first and what I do behind close doors doesnt define who I am as a person. You stated How you view intimacy, and love, and sex matters. well what holds more weight, their current view or their past views? 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